Your friend had a personal choice over her body to get a child. And it is a beautiful thing to do so, and I’m very sorry it happened - hopefully she will recover both mentally and physically and will have a sought-after child she wants.
Why do you want other women who did not choose this way to go over the potentially even more terrible thing of birthing a child at significant health risks she half-loves (as hormones are powerful things), half-hates? That just kills 2 people mentally.
Yet when my friend lost a child to a miscarriage, they grieved.
It's interesting to note when people latch on to starkly dehumanizing rhetoric such as you've displayed. It's not just in the abortion debate.
A lot of people really want this question to be black and white, and struggle to make it so, but it really isn't and never will be.