Re:The silent majority of experts (2012)
by Xeronate on Thursday June 16, 2022 @05:44PM
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That's a bad assumption to make. Plenty of people just want to have fun dating.
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Fine, change the term to "relationship expert". If you're good at maintaining a healthy romantic relationship, you'll have two, three, but optimally even one in a lifetime. That doesn't make you an expert, it still is the norm.
If instead you had 30 relationships, whilst for sure you had a lot of experience, I wouldn't really trust your advise as an "expert".
Sure. I was mainly concerned with the idea that most people are dating for marriage which I don't think is the case, at least under age 30.
But I think it's possible to be a relationship expert even with one or two real relationships. Two sets of people that have been married to only one person are not necessarily equally happy or fulfilled. A person could also make relationships their personal interest and spend a lot of time thinking about the topic on top of their lived experience which might make them more capable of giving advice.
I think it's wrong to say anyone giving advice isn't worth listening to.