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Re:Foster care is evolving by relying on children’s kin by wolverine876 on Monday June 13, 2022 @08:36PM (#31733451)
I understand very little about foster parenting and I've considered it, so please pardon a possibly dumb question: Why not adopt kids instead?
Re:Foster care is evolving by relying on children’s kin by mbbbb on Monday June 13, 2022 @09:03PM (#31733623)
There are essentially zero kids "available" to adopt outside of foster care. And foster care is (correctly imo) focused on reuniting children with their parents when possible, so the typical case of adoption being possible is when the parents are truly unsafe.
Re:Foster care is evolving by relying on children’s kin by jvanderbot on Tuesday June 14, 2022 @11:35AM (#31741020)
This. Foster agencies lead you to believe that fostering leads to adoption. It gets more people into the system (more $ for them!). But the state's goals are to reunite children with their parents or a relative. Even movies that feature fostering in a realistic way often end with adoption, which is completely unrealistic.

It almost never actually happens that children you foster will go to adoption, since it is literally a last resort. Even if a child ends up in adoption, it will be years later and probably with someone else since those children are the worst case scenarios and are routinely replaced with family before re-entering the system.

Re:Foster care is evolving by relying on children’s kin by aidenn0 on Tuesday June 14, 2022 @07:22PM (#31747240)
California, for kids under 3 is a bit of an exception. The laws have changed to favor permanency ASAP (which means about 2 years) and it's usually this order of priority:

1. Reunification

2. Adoption by Kin

3. Adoption by someone else

All 3 of the foster kids we adopted were under 3 when they entered the system. One reunified, and then was placed back with us a year later.

Re:Foster care is evolving by relying on children’s kin by PebblesRox on Tuesday June 14, 2022 @12:23AM (#31734725)
In our experience meeting other foster parents at trainings and such, around half were fostering with the goal of adoption.

Fostering can definitely lead to adoption (and in particular there is a need for parents willing to adopt teenagers) but it can be a long process with no guarantees. On the other hand, it's much cheaper than other paths to adoption, either domestic or international.

In our case we are open to adopting (and the more kids we foster, the more likely it is that we end up in a situation where adoption is on the table) but we are mainly fostering because we know there are kids out there right now that need parents, even if just for a few weeks, months or years.

Re:Foster care is evolving by relying on children’s kin by xen2xen1 on Monday June 13, 2022 @09:26PM (#31733768)
You can't adopt the kids if the parents still have a chance to get them back. That either ends via legal action by the state, or voluntarily giving up rights. This often happens when parents go to prison, for instance, since there's no chance of them caring for their kids. You also have to exhaust all relative chances first as well before they can be adopted (Indiana), so this can take 1-3+ years. In English, there's a need for kids to go somewhere that can't be adopted yet, and around half go back to mom and dad or family anyway. We had one kid for three days, and two for six weeks, so not every kid is years long anyway.