Re:Ask HN: How do I stop being used?
by silicon2401 on Thursday June 09, 2022 @03:26PM
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> Like I don't wanna reject them
You need to learn how to reject them
> if I can somewhow ask them to pay that would be great.
You need to learn how to state your fee.
The overall solution you're looking for is: how to be disagreeable.
It doesn't sound like you're stupid at all, it just sounds like you're a doormat and overly agreeable. There's nothing wrong with saying "sorry, I can't help you with that" or "I can do that for you if you pay me $X". It's literally that simple. The hard part is practicing it until it becomes easy.
You need to learn how to reject them
> if I can somewhow ask them to pay that would be great.
You need to learn how to state your fee.
The overall solution you're looking for is: how to be disagreeable.
It doesn't sound like you're stupid at all, it just sounds like you're a doormat and overly agreeable. There's nothing wrong with saying "sorry, I can't help you with that" or "I can do that for you if you pay me $X". It's literally that simple. The hard part is practicing it until it becomes easy.