Friendships form via shared context, not shared activities

Re:Friendships form via shared context, not shared activities by mmaunder on Monday May 30, 2022 @11:57PM (#31565965)

This is bullshit. “Context” has to be the most vague and abused word in English. The article contradicts itself when they say “ One way to create a shared context is through shared struggle” which is a shared activity.

Friendships are formed through shared experiences. The more intense and positive the experience and its outcome, the more durable the friendship. Simple as that. Now go make friends!

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Re:Friendships form via shared context, not shared activities by weakfish on Tuesday May 31, 2022 @01:37AM (#31566417)

Maybe try a more charitable phrase than “this is bullshit” ?

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Re:Friendships form via shared context, not shared activities by kortilla on Tuesday May 31, 2022 @03:52AM (#31567060)

You can put lipstick on a pig, but in the end it’s still…

There should be a higher bar for these types of articles that espouse truisms about fundamental human relationships.

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Re:Friendships form via shared context, not shared activities by lapcat on Tuesday May 31, 2022 @07:03AM (#31568143)

Yes, here's the problem: anyone in the world can write an article about any subject and submit it to HN. In fact the author himself submitted this article to HN. But the author seems to have no particular expertise on the subject matter of the article. The author is a software engineer writing about friendship. And the author's own comments here have just made things worse and more muddled:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31565028

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31564818

The subject matter, friendship, is of interest to many people, but what obligation do we have to take a non-expert screed seriously? Especially since the article itself seems to be problematic in several ways, at best extremely vague. It's amateur armchair philosophizing.

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Re:Friendships form via shared context, not shared activities by GeoAtreides on Tuesday May 31, 2022 @07:19AM (#31568252)

You can also point with a sword, it's not necessary to smash it straight on someone's head to make a point.

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Re:Friendships form via shared context, not shared activities by bts327 on Tuesday May 31, 2022 @12:31AM (#31566122)

"Friendships are formed through shared experiences. The more intense and positive the experience and its outcome, the more durable the friendship. Simple as that."

Truly.

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