Ask HN: I'm in a bad situation and desperately need advice

Re:Ask HN: I'm in a bad situation and desperately need advice by MightLoseMyJob on Monday May 16, 2022 @09:26PM (#31404986)

It's nothing so bad as that. Just relatively mundane sexual stuff as you say. I'm really not so concerned with the images themselves, and moreso am concerned with losing my job as a result. They could be hung on posters around town for all I care, so long as I don't lose my job.

I just worry that if they were sent out to my coworkers she found via my linkedin, that it would create a work environment in which they would really have no choice but to let me go.

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Re:Ask HN: I'm in a bad situation and desperately need advice by bckr on Monday May 16, 2022 @09:32PM (#31405031)

> Just relatively mundane sexual stuff as you say.

I believe you're over thinking this and honestly shouldn't have sent her any money. Sorry you're going through this.

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Re:Ask HN: I'm in a bad situation and desperately need advice by version_five on Monday May 16, 2022 @09:30PM (#31405019)

I'm not sure they could fire you for that if they wanted to. I would raise it with HR and file a police report. You are victim and should be treated as such. Understandably it will be embarrassing and you'll have to assess your long term level of comfort with that (like if you want to get another job), but I don't see how it's a fireable issue if it's really just consenting sexual stuff and you come clean.

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