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Re:Be Real – App that notifies friends simultaneously to cap... by causality0 on Sunday May 15, 2022 @09:53AM (#31387568)
It's the same reason you ask "Hey what are you up to" when you first call someone on the phone.

Christ I hate when people do that. It's like they want to be the arbiter of whether I'm using my time wisely. If you call someone up you should tell them what you want and let them decide whether they want to participate.

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Re:Be Real – App that notifies friends simultaneously to cap... by motoxpro on Sunday May 15, 2022 @11:05AM (#31387990)
Or maybe they are curious about your life and are not judging you or want anything at all...

I mean if you don't want to connect with people then no worries but asking what someone is doing doesn't have to be malicious or transactional

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Re:Be Real – App that notifies friends simultaneously to cap... by causality0 on Sunday May 15, 2022 @09:00PM (#31392761)
Or maybe they are curious about your life and are not judging you or want anything at all

Unfortunately the only people who call me without warning are either family or someone from work, and they always want something. Even if they didn't, having to figure out the correct response to that question can be burdensome. The honest answer is usually either something they won't understand, won't see the value in, or is inappropriate to mention. If I say "nothing much", that translates to "of course I'm happy to sit here and listen to you talk about meaningless drivel for five minutes before asking me a favor."

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Re:Be Real – App that notifies friends simultaneously to cap... by motoxpro on Sunday May 15, 2022 @09:36PM (#31392949)
I'm sorry. There are people in the world who will care about your honest answer even if they don't understand or it is of no "value" to them (I put quotes because it should be valuable to them because YOU value it not because they can "use" it). To me that's what a friend is, a relationship that is non-transactional where you connect with and support each other because you want to.

Hope you keep looking people who you can express your feelings and ideas to.

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Re:Be Real – App that notifies friends simultaneously to cap... by mpalmer on Sunday May 15, 2022 @10:38AM (#31387823)
Or maybe giving the other person the chance to say they're busy first is more polite because they don't have to decline after they know what's on offer.
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Re:Be Real – App that notifies friends simultaneously to cap... by NoSorryCannot on Sunday May 15, 2022 @02:00PM (#31389493)
Not really a great perspective on casual conversations with friends.
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Re:Be Real – App that notifies friends simultaneously to cap... by causality0 on Sunday May 15, 2022 @08:50PM (#31392691)
A casual conversation over the telephone? If I'm texting back and forth with a friend and we're both clearly not doing anything else we might start an online call but it won't be an out of the blue telephone call.
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