Thank you for your honesty.

I know I did not handle it properly, but since you were not in my shoes at the time of the incident, you should not condemn me nor judge me for my reaction.

There's a whole theme behind the scenes with this particular HR that led to this unfortunate reaction; still though, I appreciate your sincerity and I am thankful for that.

There is almost never a good reason to be impolite! Sometimes in interviews they try to piss you off with the exact purpose to see how you handle these kind of situation… you clearly failed! My first job after university was for a big tech company… during the interview the interviewer was very aggressive and borderline impolite trying to push me “over the edge”… I handle it with calm and politeness. Needless to say I was offered the job on the spot at the end of the interview (in real life the interviewer was a delightful kind person and all the rudeness was an interviewing technique)

Rest assured, I don't condemn you. But given what you've said about the experience, I would have judged you as unfit to employ in that moment. I'm curious about your focus on the HR person's history taking anger management classes: do you think that your own anger could be better managed?

I think we have a clash of cultures here, so I don't expect people to understand how insulting was her behavior in the first place that led to my reaction.

Let me remind you: > An HR called me after a 1 and a half years I originally applied for a C++ position at a FinTech company to ask me whether I'm still interested in it.

She literally ghosted me for 1.5 years while I was sending emails for months without response; even my calls were ignored, so I decided to stop trying...and then she decided to check her Discard email folder to look for possible candidates and when she read my updated resume, she went "oh, you are not a good fit"!

Then why did you even call?! Could not you just send me an email and ask me for an updated resume so you can check whether I'm suited or not for your company's needs?

I honestly don't understand you people, seriously.

> I honestly don't understand you people, seriously.

I'm not sure why you'd say "you people"; I'm not in HR, I'm purely technical, and I find many HR folks to be incredibly frustrating and even infuriating at times. But I do not express that to them. Rather, I have, but only through a mediator, after I've cooled off, to help ensure that I wouldn't say something regrettable. As frustrating as they can be, if you yell at the HR person helping my team find a new member, bzzzt, next.