Imagine sending $100 to your mom with your bank and then the bank charges you $2,000 and then the transaction doesn't go through because someone sneezed on the keyboard at the bank and forgot to press send and then the bank keeps the $2000 and your mom doesn't get the $100. Only in this case they didn't sneeze on the keyboard, the transaction calculation actively changed to be $3000 and if only you had $3000 in your account your transaction would've gone through so it's your fault your bank didn't have enough money to send your mom $100.
I agree that this is ludicrous, but I don’t think that people so much accept it as that they tolerate it. Since, for most people (albeit not all), the only utility of cryptocurrencies today is to get rich, it doesn’t really make any sense to abandon a network that sucks from a UX point of view in favor of a much better network, if you believe that the alternative network will net you much less money.
If anything, by now we should accept that showing people numbers isn't the right way to make them aware of climate change.
Crypto relies on people who don't know to look at dashboards.
It seems like someone could build a pretty sobering dashboard that shows exactly what you describe if this data is readily available.
I've wanted to dabble in the space purely so I could understand it more deeply, but am not really interested in the hype. However, building visualizations to help people understand the insanity...sounds like an interesting project.