Bits of advice I wish I had known

Re:Bits of advice I wish I had known by Cthulhu_ on Friday April 29, 2022 @06:00AM (#31203322)

Treat them with respect, sure, but set clear boundaries. There's a lot of parent that try to be reasonable and respectful to their kids, going into long rants about what they did was wrong and all that, but at some point you need to be curt, direct, and blunt, and take a stand.

Like on the car road trip, instead of dragging it out with individual pieces of candy (that'll take forever), stop the car and give them a Stern Talking To. Interrupt the flow of the moment.

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Re:Bits of advice I wish I had known by pjerem on Friday April 29, 2022 @08:49AM (#31204423)

Haha, I did that multiple times back from school with my boy. If he was acting wrong or making a "tantrum" (probably after a hard long day at school), I would just stop the car somewhere and say "Do what you want but I'll restart the car once you are calm".

It worked every time. He stopped after a minute or two. And then we were able to talk about what was wrong.

Just interrupting the flow shows that something must stop now for the normal life to continue. And then everyone can speak calmly.

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