> I’m from a rigidly socially conservative immigrant family that professes fashionably liberal values in public

I don't consider believing in matrimony, fidelity, and prioritizing ones' children as socially conservative.

It's just normal.

Just spend some time watching Tiger King to pick up on their lifestyles and politics: They might appear liberal because Joe Exotic is a freewheeling, open homosexual with multiple partners. But on closer inspection, they love Trump and hate Nancy Pelosi.