A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem

Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem by op00to on Wednesday April 13, 2022 @06:00PM (#31020830)

The idea that a well compensated, educated adult can't survive without an extensive support structure for a few years is questionable. Hell, I haven't had a support system at all - my family was actively abusive and antagonsitic to me, and yet I was able to successfully build a career, family, and so on.

It's just as likely codependancy as it would be support.

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Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem by AussieWog93 on Wednesday April 13, 2022 @06:15PM (#31020976)

>The idea that a well compensated, educated adult can't survive without an extensive support structure for a few years is questionable.

Financially, sure. In terms of mental health and feelings of isolation (especially for the wife, who won't have a high-flying career to distract her/build new contacts in), it's absolutely a problem.

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Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem by dwaltrip on Wednesday April 13, 2022 @06:58PM (#31021354)

It's not that they "can't survive". Their life just might be substantially worse.

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Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem by op00to on Wednesday April 13, 2022 @07:58PM (#31021824)

My life got substantially better when my “support system” died out.

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Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem by dwaltrip on Wednesday April 13, 2022 @08:19PM (#31021950)

It sounds like your old "support system" wasn't actually that supportive for you? That isn't the case for everyone. I'm glad you were able to make a big improvement :)

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