Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem
by op00to on Wednesday April 13, 2022 @06:00PM
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The idea that a well compensated, educated adult can't survive without an extensive support structure for a few years is questionable. Hell, I haven't had a support system at all - my family was actively abusive and antagonsitic to me, and yet I was able to successfully build a career, family, and so on.
It's just as likely codependancy as it would be support.
Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem
by AussieWog93 on Wednesday April 13, 2022 @06:15PM
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>The idea that a well compensated, educated adult can't survive without an extensive support structure for a few years is questionable.
Financially, sure. In terms of mental health and feelings of isolation (especially for the wife, who won't have a high-flying career to distract her/build new contacts in), it's absolutely a problem.
Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem
by dwaltrip on Wednesday April 13, 2022 @06:58PM
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It's not that they "can't survive". Their life just might be substantially worse.
Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem
by op00to on Wednesday April 13, 2022 @07:58PM
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My life got substantially better when my “support system” died out.
We live where we live because we're 10 minutes from my wife's two sisters, my wife's parents, and 3 cousins our kids love to play with. Generally, I think the only way we're moving is if they move first. Because my wife's whole family is here. And she spends multiple days per week with them. As do our kids.
The idea that she should be supportive of me tearing her away from this support structure is questionable.
Obviously if something came up we would discuss things. But I don't expect her to like it. Even if it involved a pay raise. Even if it involved moving somewhere she would love to live. Because these people aren't there.