A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem

Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem by maweaver on Wednesday April 13, 2022 @05:03PM (#31020227)

I am have found that since I started working from home due to covid, a neat house is much more important to me. It makes me anxious being in a house all day that is a mess. And I have become the one who bugs my wife to please pick up after herself more.

I wonder if women traditionally spending more time at home is the cause of this gender difference.

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Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem by phatfish on Wednesday April 13, 2022 @08:04PM (#31021868)

My guess is there is a "feng shui" side to cleanliness, tripping over clothes or having a sink full of dishes is more likely to affect you if you are in contact with it more often.

But also i think there is a biological reason. Mothers notice dangers to young children more, as on an evolutionary time scale they were responsible for protecting a child from birth, when the child is most vulnerable.

Keeping things clean stops any nasty avoidable accidents.

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Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem by agota on Friday April 15, 2022 @10:51PM (#31048891)

I have the same theory on women having been selected for caring about their environment.

I see that as an argument for choosing traditional gender roles because it seems to me that one of the main causes of conflict in 50/50 relationships are these arguments about chores, tidiness, etc.

Splitting chores 50/50 seems like asking for trouble given that men and women have evolved differently in this regard - he ends up feeling that she's endlessly nagging him, she ends up feeling that she has to manage him like a child.

Seems like the traditional breadwinner/homemaker setup would be a solution to this problem.

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