Yeah, the connection between understanding them as people and meetings per se is a bit tenuous, but to get to know them better I would have to interrupt them for a chat, or schedule a coffee break with them, or go to lunch with them, all of which seem as "interrupting to flow" as a scheduled meeting.
This sounds overly dramatic considering most people are very different in a meeting setup. We didn't need meetings to do this for the majority of our species' existence. Just talk with them, basic empathy.
The way it sounds, you like some meetings because they fulfill X, but X can also be fulfilled in different ways without the downsides of meetings, be it specific meetings or in general. It's those downsides and knowing X can still be satisfied that drives many of us against meetings. Many times, meetings are also subpar or flat-out fail to achieve X because of other circumstances.