Hell, I’d talk to my wife about any job change, regardless of the implications on our free time together. Do I need her explicit permission? No. Do I value her input? Yes.

Right? I feel like you and I are living in some alternate reality where we actually talk with our partners before making major life changes.

My guess is that some of the people crititicizing here are either macho bragging about stuff they don't actually do, have dysfunctional relationships but don't realize it, or much more likely just aren't or haven't been in long term relationships. Some probably misread or are taking a very negative interpretation to what they're reading.

Don't worry about it :-)

Exactly! It’s wild to me that so many people here seem to think of it as a permission grant, like they’re upset their wife hasn’t added them to sudoers or something. “How dare I not have admin rights to our life” feels like the tone of the majority of comments in this subtree.

It was just surprising.

I think it's mostly phrasing. Asking "May I?" seems silly or unhealthy. Asking "What do you think about this?" would seem more normal.