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A comment on Ask HN: Have you invested in self-development and done inner work?.

Re:Ask HN: Have you invested in self-development and done in... by verelo on Wednesday April 06, 2022 @10:39AM (#30932478)
Something i started doing which has been invaluable has been getting a therapist. Being a founder is freaking painful at times, working on yourself is a lot more than getting good at sales, taxes, technical skills...developing leadership skills and being great at it requires an upgrade not just to your IQ but your EQ. I've got a long way to go, but i feel this has been the largest improvement to me that i've ever managed to make.

While you're at it, if you do anything along these lines, consider couples counselling too. Even if all is great. The closeness and generally better understanding its given my partner and I has been the greatest stress reducer I've ever found. It opens up my bandwidth to so many other things which more generally allows me to be more effective.

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Re:Ask HN: Have you invested in self-development and done in... by mountainriver on Wednesday April 06, 2022 @12:37PM (#30934337)
Yup getting a therapist is the best thing you can do. Understanding the trauma of your childhood is the most impactful thing you can do in your life.
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Re:Ask HN: Have you invested in self-development and done in... by Invictus0 on Wednesday April 06, 2022 @11:22AM (#30933085)
I have a therapist but I'm thinking about stopping my sessions because I never felt that I needed it. I'm pretty well put together, not stressed or anxious, great people person, pretty much know exactly what I need to do all the time and good at getting stuff done. What are you supposed to talk about with a therapist if you don't really have any problems?
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Re:Ask HN: Have you invested in self-development and done in... by auslegung on Wednesday April 06, 2022 @11:28AM (#30933197)
Perhaps a life coach or career coach would be more helpful if you feel a therapist is too much.
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Re:Ask HN: Have you invested in self-development and done in... by hugohamelcom on Wednesday April 06, 2022 @03:01PM (#30936147)
I would just add here that definitively not all therapist are good, and for me I've preferred some coaches, but again not all of them are good. But overall, usually coaches seems to have worked better for me.
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Re:Ask HN: Have you invested in self-development and done in... by verelo on Wednesday April 06, 2022 @04:22PM (#30937028)
I think this is a good piece of advice. Consider a) someone else to talk to b) maybe see them less frequently if things are legitimately good.
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Re:Ask HN: Have you invested in self-development and done in... by grvdrm on Wednesday April 06, 2022 @12:08PM (#30933840)
If you never felt you needed it, what motivated you to do it in the first place?
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Re:Ask HN: Have you invested in self-development and done in... by Invictus0 on Wednesday April 06, 2022 @03:04PM (#30936186)
Girlfriend suggested it.
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Re:Ask HN: Have you invested in self-development and done in... by verelo on Wednesday April 06, 2022 @04:23PM (#30937037)
Why did she suggest it? I feel like im your therapist now.
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Re:Ask HN: Have you invested in self-development and done in... by grvdrm on Wednesday April 06, 2022 @12:25PM (#30934115)
I love the idea of couples counseling even if I don't yet feel comfortable suggesting it. But fundamentally, I ask, why not? Everything can be great, and then just talking about it with someone else can be a way to recharge your relationship just by talking about how well it's going.
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Re:Ask HN: Have you invested in self-development and done in... by hugohamelcom on Wednesday April 06, 2022 @03:00PM (#30936128)
Absolutely, both my partner and I have been doing inner child healing work, and it helped tremendously in our relationship.
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