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Re:Refusing to apologize can have psychological benefits (2012) by yeetsfromhellL2 on Sunday April 03, 2022 @09:56AM (#30896936)
Definitely not all women are chronic apologizers, but I can't think of ever meeting a chronicly apologetic man. I don't think parental norms and society, taken together, encourage it or even really allow it, at least in the West.

I suspect there's big overlap between women who are chronic apologizers and women with overbearing mothers (NPD, BPD types).

Re:Refusing to apologize can have psychological benefits (2012) by jaminal on Sunday April 03, 2022 @12:11PM (#30897975)
Have met and worked with many male chronic apologizers. I am a recovering one myself!

Interesting idea re: NPD/BPD in parents as a possible correlate. Connecting the dots in existing clinical research may agree.

Re:Refusing to apologize can have psychological benefits (2012) by kelseyfrog on Sunday April 03, 2022 @12:17PM (#30898008)
While it's less socially acceptable to be a male chronic apologizer, I can easily think of one in my life. Still, there are many more male apology abstainers that I've known over the years. Hell, I was raised by one.
Re:Refusing to apologize can have psychological benefits (2012) by mecha_ghidorah on Monday April 04, 2022 @08:31PM (#30913809)
I'm a man and I'm a chronic apologiser, and I think it probably at least partially originates from being physically abused as a child. It's easy to get in a habit of just apologising immediately for any sort of negative reaction so that you (hopefully) don't get severely beaten

I'm working on it and have improved a lot, but I used to do things like apologise to people whenever they expressed any sort of displeasure or discomfort, even if I had absolutely nothing to do with it and they couldn't possibly think I did... I used to regularly apologise to people when they complained about the weather for example.