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Re:Hard to work with by kwyjibo1230 on Wednesday March 30, 2022 @11:30PM (#30863548)
Interesting wiki article, very insightful! As a manager myself, I think it's very important to be aware of whether you are playing the "rescuer" and perpetuating dysfunction, or acting as a "coach" and helping others to actually change and learn.
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Re:Hard to work with by dilyevsky on Thursday March 31, 2022 @12:01AM (#30863698)
Don’t fool yourself - most managers would fall into Persecutor camp not the Rescuer ime.
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Re:Hard to work with by afarrell on Thursday March 31, 2022 @01:10AM (#30864009)
It is incredibly easy and ego-inflationary for people playing the persecutor role to see themselves as rescuers.
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Re:Hard to work with by kwyjibo1230 on Thursday March 31, 2022 @01:54AM (#30864234)
Definitely tracks with the human tendency to judge yourself by intentions, and others by actions
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Re:Hard to work with by kwyjibo1230 on Thursday March 31, 2022 @01:50AM (#30864211)
The wiki covers that scenario. The rescuer uses their role to say they "tried" and then justify negative feelings to the victim. Essentially becoming the persecutor
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