Re:Hard to work with
by kwyjibo1230 on Wednesday March 30, 2022 @11:30PM
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Interesting wiki article, very insightful! As a manager myself, I think it's very important to be aware of whether you are playing the "rescuer" and perpetuating dysfunction, or acting as a "coach" and helping others to actually change and learn.
Don’t fool yourself - most managers would fall into Persecutor camp not the Rescuer ime.
It is incredibly easy and ego-inflationary for people playing the persecutor role to see themselves as rescuers.
Re:Hard to work with
by kwyjibo1230 on Thursday March 31, 2022 @01:54AM
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Definitely tracks with the human tendency to judge yourself by intentions, and others by actions
Re:Hard to work with
by kwyjibo1230 on Thursday March 31, 2022 @01:50AM
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The wiki covers that scenario. The rescuer uses their role to say they "tried" and then justify negative feelings to the victim. Essentially becoming the persecutor
Basically the idea is you can really disempower others if you constantly do the work yourself to rescue them from their own mistakes. And the other person can take the role of victim in the relationship, in need of rescuing instead of being responsible the consequences themselves. Or persecutor - blaming and casting out against others.
1 - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle