Have you tried looking for another programmer? You can teach a lot of things in life but not passion and personality. If he lacks both of those fundamental traits (not skills), you should probably look for someone else.

Right now I wouldn't have a come to Jesus talk with your programmer, instead accept who he is. He is not going to change so make plans with that in mind. You can probably still launch and do what you need just look for someone else in the mean time.