I'm just saying it's quite rational to be concerned when a foreign nuclear missile alliance sets up shop on your doorstep. Putin has had many interviews where he has stated this is his primary concern and that the west isn't listening.

The US almost started WW3 over exactly that same thing in the not so distance past during the cuban missile crisis.

We get mad when Russia interferes with US-elections with a few online bots but the US directly funded and participated in the overthrow of the pro-Russia Ukrainian government in 2014. There was violence involved, why is it okay when the US murders Ukrainians to install a sympathetic government but not when Russia does it? It's hypocritical.

If it were up to me, I'd disband NATO entirely (too much polarizing history) and replace it with a new organization with a very similar charter, but open membership to Russia and China. The purpose of this organization should be to prevent world wars, not to decide local elections, especially when those elections/conflicts involve non-member countries.

If it were up to me, I’d disband Russia entirely (too much polarizing history). I’d charter it as a constitutional democracy but remove its right to a standing army. The purpose of Russia should be to increase the happiness of its citizens and protect their welfare, not keep them under the iron boot of some mafioso tyrant so he can pursue his mad dreams.

You may be right, I don't like autocratic rulers for life either, and I think a majority in the US and NATO agree with that very sentiment.

However note how aggressive a stance that is. NATO is supposed to be a defensive organization but with the charter/purpose you suggest, it is rational for Putin and Xi to fear US/NATO aggression and do whatever it takes to fight its expansion. It is very much a threat to their survival, and the existence of their countries as they know it.