It's not really only about Ukraine. It's about the whole Eastern Europe. If you listen to Putin's speech a good way to "reset" the relations would be redrawing the NATO borders to 1990 so I would say that at this point any options de-escalating the current conflict only postpones such a conflict which would be a bad move (i.e. Russia would better prepare before the next invasion). The games have already begun, more countries want now in NATO and EU because they know they are next on Russian's plate.