I understand what you’re saying but there’s nothing I can point to in my life that gave me privilege. Even being white and male have largely been detriments to my life as a lot of things designed to help low income people tended to have racial qualifiers.

Which incidentally made me a bit racist until I overcame that, because ultimately it’s nobodies fault.

I have no “absentee dad who helped out” and my family all died before I was 5 leaving behind a pitiful inherentence that barely covered their burials.

I get what you’re saying. But the reason it pisses me off is that while I have been extremely lucky, I sometimes wish to speak to my friends who were not so lucky and did not escape like I have. Having people discredit my lived experience or pretending as if it was the same for then us not helping them or me.