See this article [0] discussing a study, and specifically this quote in it which I think reconciles both your point and the GP's:

> Most women and men reported at least weekly sex, and most people reported having one sexual partner in the prior year. In the most recent surveys, men age 18 to 44 were more likely to have had no partners in the past year (16 percent) compared to women (12 percent). Men also were more likely to have had three or more partners in the past year (15 percent) compared to women (7 percent).

[0]: https://news.iu.edu/stories/2020/06/iub/releases/15-sexual-i...

Men:women are born at 107:100. There are about 7% more men than women in the world at birth. This only evens out by age 40. This is due to suicide rates among men being wildly higher.

Most men and women are monogamous - but many people date. A few men sleep with many women. Many men never see a date or any sex. 25% of men will be childless. 15% of women will be childless. It should get kinda obvious how this works even with a monogamous society. Women can get sex when they want and not commit to someone even in a monogamous society. The attractive men can choose to be non-committal and sleep with many women. Eventually - many women will commit to a man but it will be to a man who had very few partners whereas the woman might've slept with many of the men who get to sleep with many women.

Basically - the idea is that a small subset of men are sleeping with all the women. The women might settle down eventually but they will inevitably settle down with a man who did not have many sexual partners.

107:100 is either the high end of the range or outside of the range, depending on which estimate you look at. 105:100 seems to be closer to mid-range. [0]

> This only evens out by age 40.

Globally, it's actually closer to 50. [1] In particular countries this varies a lot from the global average, and, yes, the US is around 40. [2]

> This is due to suicide rates among men being wildly higher.

No, it's not. Boys have significantly higher infant mortality and males have higher rates of violent (even excluding suicide) and accidental death at all age ranges. Suicide isn't the main differentiating factor.

[0] https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_sex_ratio

[1] https://statisticstimes.com/demographics/world-sex-ratio.php

[2] https://www.statista.com/statistics/241488/population-of-the...

Research into “accidental deaths” a bit more. You’ll find it’s not that “accidental.” A lot of things get ruled as an accidental deaths when they’re not. This is due to the US trying to save face. Work in the military enough and you’ll see what I mean.

And yes - seems closer to 105:100. Just ignore under age 5 age count if you’re bothered by increased infant mortality. You’ll find it’s still 105:100…

I've read 18 but I forget the source.

[0] https://mobile.twitter.com/quillette/status/1105679979256389...

You are forgetting the 4th dimension.