This is fascinating. I feel like an anthropologist so have lots of questions.

Do you have multiple Discord servers or just one for all your friends?

Roughly how old are you and are you a student or in a job or something else? What country or region?

When you meet a new person you want to stay in contact with, how do you do so?

Do you use only Discord with friends or do you also add them on eg Facebook or Email or any other communication system?

In my world (employed, UK, middle aged) at work generally we use Slack (kinda like you’re using Discord in a way), shifting to phone numbers when you know people well for non work stuff.

Everyone else I meet, the assumption is to exchange phone number and use WhatsApp - exceptions would be iMessage or Signal sometimes. Or email or Twitter in business circumstances.

It's been a while since I had a friend I was regularly communicating with, so I have no idea how normal this is. But it is totally foreign to me.

I'm turning 32 this year, and I've honestly never used phone calls as a way to talk with my friends (outside the quick calls that texting replaced.) When I changed my phone number a few years back I told like 5 people, all family.

We had AIM and message boards pretty early, but no dedicated phone lines. By the time cell-phones became ubiquitous, we had cars and could just actually hang out. And by the time we all moved apart, voice chat services were good enough to just hop back to the old chat model.