Re:Ask HN: What is one book you would recommend everyone to ...
by bttger on Monday February 07, 2022 @04:21AM
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Is it really common to say "I have a relationship"? I would instinctively say "I am in a relationship". Maybe though it is also because my mother tongue is German and in Germany people say "Ich bin in einer Beziehung".
Re:Ask HN: What is one book you would recommend everyone to ...
by shafyy on Monday February 07, 2022 @04:56AM
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My mother tongue is also German, so maybe I picked a wrong example for this :D A better one would be "I have a partner" maybe? I've read it some time ago, so I don't remember the exact examples, but you get the idea.
Re:Ask HN: What is one book you would recommend everyone to ...
by t8y on Monday February 07, 2022 @04:03AM
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I think at the exact same time you posted this I also recommended an Erich Fromm book.
Re:Ask HN: What is one book you would recommend everyone to ...
by shafyy on Monday February 07, 2022 @04:56AM
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He's great!
Erich Fromm is a great author and in this book he looks at the difference of having (owning stuff) vs. being (enjoying experiences). He argues that too many people are focused on "having", and that our whole society and even language is built around that. For example, you would say "I have a relationship". He argues that it's a weird choice of words, since you don't own the relationship.