No, they're probably married. The terminally unpleasant cynical people actually seem to be on here less than they used to - and the ones still here I assume are crypto millionaires now, which always helps.

Married people date too. Ever heard of polyamory?

The problem of finding the perfect partner doesn't seem so intractable if you recognize it is completely unreasonable to expect one person to satisfy 100% of your needs for 30 years+.

Isn't that just, like, Berkeley? But also, they don't complain it's hard to find a unicorn, right?

It's expected to be rare, and the searchers don't have the same feeling of single desperation.

I knew a unicorn hunter (a ‘couple’ looking for a hot bi babe) in college, he was ugly as hell, his wife was uglier, that guy was chatting up more women than any anybody I know. I know he found at least one.

Because they are always hunting, they have a high profile.

Other poly people are pretty boring and have pretty normal ideas about love except that they believe (and know) you can love more than one person at a time. Such a person tends to keep a low profile and is going to get confused with bigamists, cheating monogamists, etc.

Thus it is more like cheating among mono people (who also use online dating) which is not exceptionally rare. The difference is that you aren’t cheating.

The poly community isn’t much of a community because there are big moral differences between the participants: unicorn hunters are a running gag but you have many sad couples where somebody was cheating and then forced the other to accept it. If you fly the poly flag you’ll attract a lot of people you don’t want to know so some think it is like ‘Fight Club’.