Re:How can introverts become comfortable in social situations
by more_corn on Tuesday January 04, 2022 @12:20PM
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What you describe is social anxiety.
Actually some tricks from introverts might work.
I find that if I know about someone and like them it’s easy to want to greet them. Get to know the people around you. There’s usually something interesting about each person. Make it your job to find out.
I’m totally introverted, but I can overcome my inclination and get to know people if I try. Imagine you’re trapped on a ship. You’re on your way to a colony. Everyone around you will be the seeds of that colony. If everyone is going to survive people will need to work together. If you’re going to thrive you need to know the people who will be important. The colony is your future. You and the people around you are colonizing it. You need them. Get to work.
Greetings are the first step. Just say hi. The next step is to let go of all your predictions about what they may be thinking about you. You’d be less concerned about what people think of you if you knew how seldom they do it. It’s actually rude to assume someone is thinking something without evidence. It removes their agency. Talk to them and figure out what they actually think not what you imagine they might think.
Another trick I’ve found is to find people who care about the same things as you. Socializing is not work when you’re all there for the same thing and can talk about something mutually interesting. Find something you really care about, find a group of people who also care. Hang out with them and practice.
I find that if I know about someone and like them it’s easy to want to greet them. Get to know the people around you. There’s usually something interesting about each person. Make it your job to find out.
I’m totally introverted, but I can overcome my inclination and get to know people if I try. Imagine you’re trapped on a ship. You’re on your way to a colony. Everyone around you will be the seeds of that colony. If everyone is going to survive people will need to work together. If you’re going to thrive you need to know the people who will be important. The colony is your future. You and the people around you are colonizing it. You need them. Get to work.
Greetings are the first step. Just say hi. The next step is to let go of all your predictions about what they may be thinking about you. You’d be less concerned about what people think of you if you knew how seldom they do it. It’s actually rude to assume someone is thinking something without evidence. It removes their agency. Talk to them and figure out what they actually think not what you imagine they might think.
Another trick I’ve found is to find people who care about the same things as you. Socializing is not work when you’re all there for the same thing and can talk about something mutually interesting. Find something you really care about, find a group of people who also care. Hang out with them and practice.