Re:Challenging ‘rule breakers’ – children will confront thei...
by bob1029 on Tuesday December 28, 2021 @12:45PM
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It's probably some form of crab bucket mentality. Many follow their paleolithic urges when it comes to watching others succeed.
I'll be the first to admit that it takes a little bit of conscious effort for me to look at another person leaving me in the dust and thinking "wow that's awesome. good for them".
Attempting to reframe my own comparative lack of success in terms of "they must have broken the rules or something" is a thing I reserve for competitive video gaming where the likelihood of an actual cheater is very high and the consequences of being wrong in my accusation are zero. Even if I totally delude myself into thinking everyone is using an aimbot and it has nothing to do with my shitty aim and I wind up the worst gamer on earth, I still have the rest of my life to work with.
In my personal experience, when you make your whole existence about winners breaking the rules and you being a relative loser because you follow all the rules, you turn into a monster.
I'll be the first to admit that it takes a little bit of conscious effort for me to look at another person leaving me in the dust and thinking "wow that's awesome. good for them".
Attempting to reframe my own comparative lack of success in terms of "they must have broken the rules or something" is a thing I reserve for competitive video gaming where the likelihood of an actual cheater is very high and the consequences of being wrong in my accusation are zero. Even if I totally delude myself into thinking everyone is using an aimbot and it has nothing to do with my shitty aim and I wind up the worst gamer on earth, I still have the rest of my life to work with.
In my personal experience, when you make your whole existence about winners breaking the rules and you being a relative loser because you follow all the rules, you turn into a monster.