Sure but that's one layer removed. The adjective/verb is ableist, the noun refers to a specific sexual fetish but derives from the former, the product name is (in my experience) mostly understood as a reference to the noun. So ableism -> sexual reference -> product name.

Whereas in countries where "mongo" or some version thereof is a slur, for MongoDB it's racism -> ableism -> product name or even racism + ableism -> product name

The difference is subtle but IMO what makes it worse is that while "gimping" is a dismissive reference to disability, "mongo" is a slur directly mocking a person with a (real or alleged) disability. As I said, you wouldn't want to call your product "Ret*rdDB" either.

But I think arguing over which is worse misses the point: it's a good idea to check for foreign language implications when picking a name and you should avoid relying on juvenile puns.