Re:Frame Control
by rglover on Thursday December 02, 2021 @04:44PM
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Have an NPD dad and this rings a lot of bells. In addition to what's written here, it's helpful to study that disorder to better navigate the idea of frame control (NPDs carefully tailor reality in this way). A good starting point is Dr. Les Carter on YouTube if you're unfamiliar with the disorder.
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Yeah, I felt exactly the same way. The intro made me go "oh wow, there are other people with that experience too". I kept reading, but decided I needed to stop and come back to it later when I'm in a different frame of mind. This could spin me out for the day.
I felt similarly. Half way through the post, I couldn't help but just feel... bad. She was right, it's ultimately just her thoughts but reading it felt deeply dangerous in my gut and I strongly considered stopping half way through. But I also felt it would be worse to just walk away with just the "dangerous" half of the story, and that I should finish reading.
I'm glad that I read through to the end, if only for the last few sentences - and a part of me wishes they came sooner in the post. It was a reassuring for me to read and I hope it is for you as well, something for you hold on to if you do decide to revisit the post:
> Don’t let this post tell you how you should feel. Take this article lightly, take it as a pointer, take it as art. Ultimately, checking in with how you actually feel is the answer. I don’t mean to imply this is easy; it’s often really hard to know how you feel, and maybe it changes often and frame controllers put in a lot of effort to obfuscate this. But in the end, careful attention to your own sensations are your saving grace.