You keep using problems that are not related to remote work neccesarily, but to the way the company works.
Yes, it's about placing the responsibility on the person you're bothering, and doing less of it yourself. So I think you're actually agreeing with me or somehow misinterpreted my post.
Here's your cases laid out:
1. I think my problem is more important than whatever it is you're doing, so it's Ok to bother you.
2. I can't bother to organize my thoughts and compose them in writing, so have fun parsing my word salad over voice, because obviously you have nothing better to do.
3. I am horrible at planning and cannot think of questions in advance, so it's your fault.
> It's very much a young person and startup thing
Right, so the toxic business practices.
I do take issue if I constantly get pinged from people who are in lateral teams and positions and in companies where there's no clearly defined structure and everyone pings everyone. Then it's pure toxic chaos.
Hope that clarifies it.
Slack in real time = I ran into a problem and I will bother you in real time until you fix it. Endemic to data scientists!
Not writing email = I need you to answer me now, not later. Also, I don't want to waste time composing text when I can just talk to you over video right now.
Meetings all the time = I want the highest bandwidth communication immediately, instead of having to wait for an unspecified length of time, only to realize that I have a follow-up question.
This is precisely about responsibility and responsiveness, right now, immediately, and in real time, until the problem is solved. It's very much a young person and startup thing. Maybe it works differently if you contract with a large, slow bigcorp of some kind, but I've never worked in such an environment.