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I've understood early that feminism was not about women but about gender perception.
And the fact that a young female judge ruled in his favor should tell you that society is still improving: feminism was necessary at one point, like BLM currently is, but the goal is not to favor a specific gender or ethnicity (or whatever) but to create a level playing field for all! This is the road to progress!
We aren't there yet, and it will certainly take a long time as social progress is very slow and many cultures and society are extremely conservative - even those you would think beyond that: simply look at how Europe decries what we do here in America as "wokeism", and you'll understand they've still got a long way to go...
However, I see a lot of signs that it's not just a vain hope: the world is improving, on many indicators. It's a slow tide that'll lift all boats. It may hit first those of us who live in America, but everyone will eventually benefit from social progress.
As I tried to counsel him a bit to help him down from the worry ladder, I thought to myself how scary it is that even despite our current point in history, divorce has rarely if ever worked well for men, and most of what I say to console him is likely meaningless comfort.
With all the problems in the world, worry is what kills the most of us. I manage it by only focusing on what I can control and by staying out of the spotlight of scrutiny and shame as a man myself. It's probably also the reason why I've chosen to not get married unfortunately as well to this day.