Re:Ask HN: Would you admit being unfit for role, or use a si...
by readonthegoapp on Saturday November 20, 2021 @11:08AM
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I had a fucking awful job for three months this summer
I advise others to give something two full months before bouncing
I usually don't follow my advice but this time I did
It was a big mistake -- it just burned me out -- big-time zapped my emotional energy and I took a couple months off afterwards before I really starting to look again
I told my new manager that I felt bad felt like things were off everything was wrong yes I'm actually trying hard to figure out WTF you guys are doing but it's a literal disaster and I've been in plenty of disasters even helped create them but this is a whole new level of fucketty
Mgr blew it off
Which makes sense because they created it
At one point I took it as a challenge let me see if I can make it work here life is fun and not that serious for a relatively privileged dude like me I'm prob not going to starve
Had a couple of goodish days
But ultimately felt like the company was a loser and I usually like to be in psychopath startups actually trying to do something "make a dent in the universe" hopefully not an evil dent
So I gave it the bezos test
Will I regret having bounced from this shit hole in five years?
No
And there were some nice and smart people there but that was mostly irrelevant to my day to day
So part of my equation the biggest part was
What is my purpose of this life?
It was not I decided to stick it out at some shit job
I wanted to do bigger and much much better impactful things and felt like there was zero chance of that happening there
All stuff I should have known before I joined but eh
So my advice
Tell someone
Give it the old college try
Think about making that two month mark
Start looking for your next gig
If it still sucks at two months you have to go
If you want to do something in this life
Lot of people with choices are happy to live a 1x life
I've usually chased and have sometimes found that 10x life
I advise others to give something two full months before bouncing
I usually don't follow my advice but this time I did
It was a big mistake -- it just burned me out -- big-time zapped my emotional energy and I took a couple months off afterwards before I really starting to look again
I told my new manager that I felt bad felt like things were off everything was wrong yes I'm actually trying hard to figure out WTF you guys are doing but it's a literal disaster and I've been in plenty of disasters even helped create them but this is a whole new level of fucketty
Mgr blew it off
Which makes sense because they created it
At one point I took it as a challenge let me see if I can make it work here life is fun and not that serious for a relatively privileged dude like me I'm prob not going to starve
Had a couple of goodish days
But ultimately felt like the company was a loser and I usually like to be in psychopath startups actually trying to do something "make a dent in the universe" hopefully not an evil dent
So I gave it the bezos test
Will I regret having bounced from this shit hole in five years?
No
And there were some nice and smart people there but that was mostly irrelevant to my day to day
So part of my equation the biggest part was
What is my purpose of this life?
It was not I decided to stick it out at some shit job
I wanted to do bigger and much much better impactful things and felt like there was zero chance of that happening there
All stuff I should have known before I joined but eh
So my advice
Tell someone
Give it the old college try
Think about making that two month mark
Start looking for your next gig
If it still sucks at two months you have to go
If you want to do something in this life
Lot of people with choices are happy to live a 1x life
I've usually chased and have sometimes found that 10x life
And it's gd amazing
I haven't had conventional success (yet?)
But at least I've tried to live
Some people are afraid to die
Some people are afraid to live
That kind of thing