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Re:The benefits of not belonging by bxparks on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @04:43PM (#29246696)
I wonder if there is a bit of survivorship bias in this article. Some kids grow up in a non-friendly environment, but develop the skills to deal with the adversity, and when they grow up, those skills become highly advantageous. Other kids whither and fall apart in such an adverse environment, suffer from low self-esteem, substance abuse, and other mental illnesses, and never get the chance to reap the benefits of being an outsider.
Re:The benefits of not belonging by kayodelycaon on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @05:16PM (#29247004)
I think there is. I think they are just speaking from their own experience. They are an authority on their own life experience and know what they've learned but that doesn't generalize. Advice is only right for the right person at the right time.

> The best way to be liked is to just agree with everyone.

This view is incomplete. Human relationships are build on connections. You can create those connections by agreeing with people, but that creates a very swallow connection.

An example of connections is networking: you mingle in a group of people at an event and start or join conversations. Everyone at the event starts the shared experience of being there. After a conversation, you might find someone that works in the same city you do, that adds another connection. And so on.

:)

Re:The benefits of not belonging by WalterBright on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @07:15PM (#29247965)
> The best way to be liked is to just agree with everyone.

Maybe I'm different, but people who just agree with me are uninteresting.

Re:The benefits of not belonging by throwaway803453 on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @09:22PM (#29248702)
As are people who are impulsively contrarian.
Re:The benefits of not belonging by fragmede on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @07:27PM (#29248051)
I think you're totally wrong!
Re:The benefits of not belonging by WalterBright on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @07:36PM (#29248116)
Hmm, I like the cut of your jib!
Re:The benefits of not belonging by dTal on Wednesday November 17, 2021 @03:18PM (#29258314)
Perhaps it could be rephrased:

The best way to avoid being disliked is to be uninteresting.

Re:The benefits of not belonging by sqldba on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @06:11PM (#29247436)
Yeah I mean for starters the author appear to have been rich as hell from the very beginning. I’m sure that helps soothe the sting of being an “outsider”.

But I decided not to take the article personally because they’re not claiming something universal about outsiders.

Re:The benefits of not belonging by bobthechef on Wednesday November 17, 2021 @01:11PM (#29256610)
He wrote that he wasn't rich.
Re:The benefits of not belonging by Aloha on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @09:31PM (#29248755)
I'm one of those people, being the odd man out, has both harmed me and allowed me to reap benefits. I can walk into most situations as the dispassionate observer, its really interesting being able to watch the world and understand which rules matter, and which ones don't.
Re:The benefits of not belonging by 8ytecoder on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @05:12PM (#29246959)
Indeed. And I have seen cases of both happening within the same single family. Different kids react to the same external pressure in different ways.