> An hour later I was contacted by my attorney who informed me that Rich had shot himself earlier in the morning. > So. There it is. His other ex and I got to tell our children that their father died without saying goodbye to them, or that he loved them, or to my knowledge, left a note for them.

This rubs me the wrong way. Also the countless posts dissing someone who committed suicide.

That's just goon culture, though. The same culture that Lowtax helped to invent.

divorce court absolutely can make the determination that there was domestic violence in their ruling. it simply doesn't have criminal implications.

there is very frequently different outcome in civil suits vs criminal suits. where you're found guilty of something in a civil court but innocent in criminal.

Divorce court doesn't do in depth investigation.

If it's legit domestic abuse it goes through a criminal court first and they use that evidence in the divorce court.

Domestic abuse is its own trial entirely.

Otherwise it's just a he-said-she-said scenario and women usually engender a lot more sympathy in painting the guy as an abuser.