You really don't understand marriage. You don't just do things - You work together.

"You don't just do things - You work together."

this is correct.

Actually I understand only too well. I know the OP's situation is no good because your partner should be supporting your dreams/goals/aspirations and vice-versa. You should never have to ask permission, or convince someone to "let" you pursue your dreams. Nobody who truly cares about you would ever try to stand in the way of it.

"Because I really want to" is reason enough for anyone you're that close to. Bringing in a bunch of unknown people on the 'net to help you plead your case is a defacto admission of a lack of closeness/belief/trust.

The act of convincing is an important one. You need to convince your spouse that it's important to you. More important than all the other concerns (that's the hard part).

"Let" generally gets used both ways in marriage. It doesn't usually imply disparity.

It always implies disparity.

No, in a marriage it implies parity: each party gets a veto on decisions that will affect them both.

Gyro, ever been in love? Do you even understand how a partnership works? What about co-founders? Do you just individually do whatever suits you, or do you discuss what's most important for the company and make decisions together?

Same goes for a marriage. It's a partnership - all decisions are cooperative. All major decisions (should) be by consensus. (flame edited out by author).

I would suggest watching the personal comments and insults. The fact that we view an issue differently does nothing to indicate that your view is correct, and your conclusions are wrong.

Nobody should ever get a veto over your dreams and aspirations.

If you're in a relationship like that, you're both sharing the risk -- and if you can't convince her of the rewards, it sounds like there's a serious problem.

Wow, I didn't think anyone on here would downmod that sentiment.

That first line is classic!! Ha!