So you can either go modular and have a slow PC, or you can have decent performance and just accept that everything is going to be soldered on and irreplaceable.
Also our PCs are not slow, modular or not. In many cases hardware is not the bottleneck.
Maybe the fan was more of a case fan and it simply ran air through the whole machine INCLUDING the CPU heatsink, which is AFAIK exactly how it worked.
But we do know how far DIMMs can go. Mainboard memory trace layouts have gotten ridiculously optimized. DDR4-5200 is a totally "normal" XMP spec now, there are even 5400 kits out there I think.
This is unsurprising given what I already pointed out about power being more important than maximizing performance. Sure, you can overclock the memory controller on a desktop platform and with sufficiently expensive DIMMs and probably a bit of an overvolt for the memory controller/uncore you can reach higher bus speeds than any laptop CPU (though still not anywhere near as high as GDDR used with high-end mobile GPUs).
But take a look at the fastest memory speeds available through SODIMM slots vs the speed of LPDDR4x supported by the same CPUs. Within the constraints of laptop power levels and using standard grade memory parts rather than requiring premium binned chips, soldering currently corresponds to a 33% performance advantage.
Imagine 8 DIMMs next to each other, and then fitting that into a laptop form factor.
Because it partly is. It's just a lame defence / justification of soldering SSD, RAM and other parts, the major advantage of which is to make modern electronics more complex, hard to repair and prevent upgrades (i.e. "planned obsolescence"). If SSDs were reliable beyond 5+ years, manufacturers would be highlighting that and even offering guarantees for such a period. (Hell, most RAM today come with "lifetime" guarantees, even though RAM modules too fail occasionally).
The modular design for computer hardware was chosen for a practical reason - that hardware can, and do fail. While electronic manufacturing has advanced a lot, minimizing failure rates to a great extent, the pros of replaceable modules absolutely still outweigh any of the alternative hardware designs so far.