For PostgreSQL on macOS I use and suggest https://postgresapp.com/ which is free and able to manage multiple Postgres major versions. It's also self-contained in a folder in /Applications. Also, version 14 of Postgres in the app has m1 native support.

For “infrastructure” apps like databases, caches, etc, I’ve been using Docker containers. Very easy to setup and tear down in a repeatable way. Unless I’m modifying the app itself, of course.

For me it’s the only sane way to manage multiple small projects. A few lines in a docker compose file and I’m done, no matter the Postgres/Python/Ruby/Lib or framework version, everything is isolated and reproductible. Downside is gigabytes of RAM wasted.

Exactly. I have a few build tools on my machine but any service installed locally has been long gone. Even the apps I work on - I just have the code locally and compile/package it up for testing within a container, which resembles the actual production landing spot. No more "it works on my machine".