I think "managerette" is just rubbing it in that the person is mostly there to wave their hands, with little real vision for the things that matter - I guess "paper-pusher" would be similar in tone but more gender-neutral.

> Personally I feel like the patronizing/infantilizing language wouldn't be used for "a guy".

Patronizing, maybe not. They'd just get straight hate. Both would still be digging at the incompetent parasitism. Men and women are different, idk why people get their knickers in a twist about insults being gendered. I definitely get insulted in ways women don't for completely understandable reasons, and society doesn't give a fuck.

I'd mostly care if they're deserved or appropriate at all in the first place, not whether they're up to some linguistic standards.