Re:Is going to the office a broken way of working?
by gwright on Tuesday October 12, 2021 @07:46PM
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How did your particular group of acquaintances become blessed as the standard group? Do you not understand how presumptuous it is for you assume that your experience is the standard experience and to label everyone else an outlier? Why do you even think there is some sort of dichotomy in this area between what is typical (and coincidently just like your experience) and what is a an outlier?
Here is an interesting article that discusses the misunderstanding of what "average" means in a multi-dimensional context: https://www.thestar.com/news/insight/2016/01/16/when-us-air-...
You may actually be right, in the sense that most people don't form long lasting friendships from co-workers, but you can't conclude that just from your personal experience. It was your elevation of your personal experience to universal truth that I was pushing back on. Basically don't use anecdata as evidence of some larger truth.
It's my own experience, and the experience of literally everyone I've ever talked to about it, and something many people have written about in articles about the difficulties of making friends as an adult. No doubt there are people who maintain friendships with people they've worked with long after leaving a job but I don't believe it's very common. If your experience is different then I think you are an outlier. There's nothing wrong with that. You're better off than the rest of us.