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A comment on Ask HN: Any dating advice for a late 30s man that got divorced?.

Re:Ask HN: Any dating advice for a late 30s man that got div... by koolba on Monday August 16, 2021 @07:17PM (#28204083)
Let me preface this comment by saying that I’m completely serious in this advice.

After a certain age, and after a certain duration of long term relationship, there are only two paths you can go down.

The first is the life of a monk. You cut yourself off from the toil of relationships and your other life passions become the focus of your existence. Your hobbies and intellectual pursuits occupy your time.

The other is the path of the lecher. Embrace it completely and don’t look back. Treat carnal desires the same as a hankering for a nice steak or Pho.

The choice is yours. Either way, live your life on your own terms and don’t feel obligated to recreate whatever failed state you had before.

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Re:Ask HN: Any dating advice for a late 30s man that got div... by version_five on Monday August 16, 2021 @07:32PM (#28204196)
This person is 38, that's not very old, and according to some stuff I've read is close to the age of maximum average appeal for a man, based on the combination of maturity, financial position, and relative youth. I was 37 when I met my wife, and at least in my circle of friends it's not that unusual.

For the OP, I'd just add that some common circumstances (literally either work or school) is the only way I've met women. I don't make a great first impression, and would have no idea how to even try a tinder date. Finding a situation where you get to know people relatively well before exploring romance is my suggestion. That probably would mean looking for a job that has professional women in their late 20s and above, and hopefully finding motivation to want the job that's not just about meeting women, because that would be creepy :)

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Re:Ask HN: Any dating advice for a late 30s man that got div... by koolba on Monday August 16, 2021 @07:38PM (#28204251)
38 when you’ve been married for 15 years is very different from 38 and married for one year.
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Re:Ask HN: Any dating advice for a late 30s man that got div... by sgt on Tuesday August 17, 2021 @03:50AM (#28207287)
That may be be true for someone 55-65, but 38 is still really young!
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Re:Ask HN: Any dating advice for a late 30s man that got div... by yuppie_scum on Monday August 16, 2021 @08:11PM (#28204560)
Very cynical, if you’re being serious.
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