Found this just now. There is a line

"Suspicion and fear continue to permeate the Kashmir valley. A knock on the door late at night sends spasms of anxiety through households, afraid that a family member will be asked by the security forces or militants to step outside for "a minute" and then never return."

They have put it better than me but the idea is the same. People hear dread the knock and that is somehow a part of our identity and culture now