> If taken as accurate, it tells me that I am not ready for a girlfriend, if it means I can't ogle other girls.

Depends on what kind of relationship you want to have. In my last one I ogled other dudes all the time.

In all honesty, that's probably because I once shared a HN link in email ... and I am pretty certain I now get automatically banned from the front page. It's kind of a bummer, but PG's ruling is final.

Thanks for the great article Kirill...very well written & you articulated some complex thoughts, which are kind of relationship commonsense, but hard to articulate & internalize/implement :)

I had a q. about your comment above though.."In all honesty, that's probably because I once shared a HN link in email"

I am a HN n00b...is sharing HN links in emails forbidden ? If so, what's the reason ?

It's not forbidden, of course, but if you share a link in email and ask people to upvote that link, chances are you'll be picked up as spam. "Gaming" HN is really a no-no. But, turns out in my case, that wasn't the case.

p.s. if you like it, feel free to repost it. I'd say let's have a "PG, please let this topic back to the front page" trend; but he might just send a team of snipers at me afterwards. :/