Raising a family and religion were important, but I don't think people were very different from our times.
To prove this just look at old folk musical instruments and their development. It is fascinating really.
And the military, and politics, and arts, and friends, and philosophy, and sciences, ...
It's a big fat modern-times bias to imagine that our 19th century ancestors were so simplistic. Just read Zola or Dostoïevski, many characters and/or situations could be transposed nearly intact in modern times.
I have no idea what the majority of people in my community do. We simply never discuss work, there's so much more between family, nature, and the goings on in the world. The complete reverse was true in North America - the first question after "what's your name" was invariably "what do you do".