Spanking can worsen a child's behavior

Re:Spanking can worsen a child's behavior by vanattab on Tuesday June 29, 2021 @10:35AM (#27676358)

People think I am crazy when I says this but I think generally physically "punishment" should mostly be reserved for toddlers and only when in situations where failure to learn the "lesson" could be very dangerous to the child. For example if you see a toddler sticking something in an electrical socket (a very common occurrence because they see adults do it) I think it is very appropriate to sharply smack the child's hand so it stings a bit. It is important for that child's safety to assocate sticking stuff into outlets with pain and there is no way you can explain the risks to a toddler. Once I child has the ability to speak and has basic reasoning I see very little if any use for physical "punishment"

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Re:Spanking can worsen a child's behavior by xyzzy123 on Tuesday June 29, 2021 @11:04AM (#27676820)

I'm not going for aversion or punishment, it's more like... physical communication.

I think what is going on in my son's brain is that while I am trying to remain calm and tell him to stop flinging the door open and slamming it shut, oblivious to a nearby 1yo, is that what he actually hears is something like the charlie brown "wah wah wah" noise.

His hearing is fine but he can be very inattentive to speech.

I found myself needing a way to get through to him, with restraint and removal as escalation and a proper discussion when I actually have his attention.

I support anti smacking laws as doing more good than harm but I do feel conflicted about being a hypocrite. I'd like to be better.

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Re:Spanking can worsen a child's behavior by anoncake on Wednesday June 30, 2021 @11:40AM (#27689854)

While I wouldn't consider what you do violence, doesn't something like putting your hand on his shoulder work?

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Re:Spanking can worsen a child's behavior by goodpoint on Tuesday June 29, 2021 @12:26PM (#27678149)

> People think I am crazy

Perhaps there's a reason if people do not agree with you.

> I think it is very appropriate

Pedagogical and psychological practitioners don't think so. What are your credentials?

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Re:Spanking can worsen a child's behavior by vanattab on Tuesday June 29, 2021 @01:32PM (#27679116)

I was raised catholic. 13 siblings 67 first cousins.

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Re:Spanking can worsen a child's behavior by quek on Tuesday June 29, 2021 @03:13PM (#27680395)

I can see the problem.

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Re:Spanking can worsen a child's behavior by vanattab on Tuesday June 29, 2021 @03:15PM (#27680425)

I can't can you point it out for me?

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Re:Spanking can worsen a child's behavior by anoncake on Wednesday June 30, 2021 @11:38AM (#27689825)

What about child-proof power outlets? I can't think of anything similarly dangerous you cannot make inaccessible to a toddler.

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