Re:Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain ...
by tolbish on Saturday June 26, 2021 @09:48PM
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Do you suppose there is a "natural max" of connections one is primed to keep in touch with? That after that number, it becomes more or less a task rather than reaching out out of genuine interest.
Re:Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain ...
by jlokier on Saturday June 26, 2021 @11:56PM
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I think there are more parameters.
Some people's "natural max" for actively calling or messaging on a timescale of, say, weeks or months if there's no feeling of obligation is zero.
But it doesn't necessarily mean that aren't interested. Some of those people love keeping in touch when it happens - and are genuinely interested. Their "natural max" for people they enjoy being in touch with regularly (ie. not being a task) is much higher than the number they tend initiate things with.
Come to think of it that might be true for everyone.
Re:Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain ...
by sodality2 on Sunday June 27, 2021 @10:33AM
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Depends on how social you are and how much free time you have. Mentally, I think it can become taxing to reach out to that many people. So yeah, I suppose there is a natural max that depends on personality, free time, etc.
It does not do this- it either notifies you to talk to them if you haven't in a while, or it automatically sends a single message to start a conversation.
Note that I don't necessarily agree with this. I simply have a mental list of friends who I currently am keeping in touch with and every once in a while check up on the ones I haven't spoken to in a few days.