this provides some context for why some women immediately balk when they see my playstation controller and vr headset on the west elm media cabinet

"[oh god] are you ... a gamer ??"

I feel like a lot of people can't differentiate between potential partners that own a console versus whatever gamer addict they're afraid of. thinking about it, that's a decent heuristic given how many gamers bring toxic ideas with them, even if they aren't neglecting other responsibilities for games