Ask HN: How to cope with the death of a dear person?

Re:Ask HN: How to cope with the death of a dear person? by geocrasher on Saturday May 29, 2021 @11:41AM (#27325947)

I lost my wife in February. We knew it was coming and were able to say goodbye. It doesn't hurt any less.

My wife left me an article series to read, in print, but it's also online, and it has proved helpful over and over again especially when I am in the deepest throes of agony. I hope it helps you and your wife:

"Help for Those Who Grieve" https://www.jw.org/en/library/magazines/awake-no3-2018-nov-d...

You'll benefit from the articles no matter your religious leanings. They are extremely practical.

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Re:Ask HN: How to cope with the death of a dear person? by rubicon33 on Sunday May 30, 2021 @01:21AM (#27330812)

Losing my wife is my greatest fear in life. It transcends the fear of losing my parents, or my siblings.

I don't understand how much it hurts you but, I can imagine. I hope you're able to find peace and happiness again.

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Re:Ask HN: How to cope with the death of a dear person? by SomeDudeInKy on Saturday May 29, 2021 @05:26PM (#27328352)

I lost my mother in April to pancreatic cancer. We knew it was coming and the waiting game was not pleasant. The worst part is, nothing can prepare you for when it does finally happen.

I’m sorry for your loss.

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Re:Ask HN: How to cope with the death of a dear person? by geocrasher on Saturday May 29, 2021 @11:25PM (#27330344)

And I am very sorry to hear of yours as well :(

I can relate so much to your comment. The waiting game... just awful. Toward the end of the ordeal, when my wife had taken her last turn for the worse, a friend called and asked how I was doing.

My response: "I feel like a prisoner who's staring at the guillotine while the executioner is on the phone ordering lunch."

I thought I'd share it not for a laugh, but you might be able to relate to the feeling.

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Re:Ask HN: How to cope with the death of a dear person? by the_svd_doctor on Sunday May 30, 2021 @08:54AM (#27332882)

I’m terrified of losing my wife one day. I’m very sorry for your loss, this has to be so difficult.

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Re:Ask HN: How to cope with the death of a dear person? by djyaz1200 on Saturday May 29, 2021 @12:31PM (#27326314)

Very sorry for your loss

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Re:Ask HN: How to cope with the death of a dear person? by geocrasher on Saturday May 29, 2021 @05:24PM (#27328336)

Thank you :)

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